I was flipping through one of my old journals yesterday (always an enlightening experience ;) and I found a sentence I wrote one winter a few years ago.
“A funny thing is happening outside. The rain keeps turning to snow and then back to rain. The temperature must just be flirting on the edge of both. It’s making me want to cry for some reason. How quickly things can change form.”
Ah, so poetic of me, right!? That sentence popped out of the page, because I can remember the exact moment when I saw that snow-to-rain-and-back-to-snow thing happening – I had never seen it before, and I haven’t ever seen it since. It felt profound to me at the time.
There’s something that made me sad about it in that moment. How quickly things can change form. How it only takes one moment for something to be completely different than it was just a TINY moment ago.
Not to be a total ninny, but I actually think about this exact concept every time someone gets sent home mid-date on “The Bachelor” or “The Bachelorette.” Seriously. Maybe you find this a silly example, but I think about impermanence every single time. One moment they are on a date with someone they might potentially get engaged to in a few weeks…and the next moment, unexpectedly they are thrust into a van and sent home to “regular life.” I always think…reality must feel pretty warped in those first few moments. I always think about that.
Impermanence is weird. Both incredible things and sad things are fleeting. As our favorite Jason Silva says about the impermanence of falling in love… “there’s a sadness to the ecstasy…beautiful things can make us a little sad.”
But there’s also something really wonderful about impermanence, if we flip it to another perspective.
It reminds us that if we’re feeling something uncomfortable, we won’t always be stuck.
So let this be a reminder:
- If you are feeling stuck, you will feel the rush of freedom and forward movement again.
- If you are feeling sad, you will feel joyful again. In fact, you will burst with joy again!
- If you are unsure or confused, you will find solid, bright clarity again.
- If you are tired or worn down, you will feel lightness and energy again.
- If you don’t have the answers now, you will have an “aha” moment again.
As I wrote in this blog about Accepting Uncertainty…
“Remember the other times you were in an uncomfortable in-between phase. And remember how things fell into place.”
I read this article today by Matt Haig and it was so incredibly good. This was my favorite quote:
“Your mind is a galaxy. More dark than light. But the light makes it worthwhile. Which is to say, don’t kill yourself. Even when the darkness is total. Always know that life is not still. Time is space. You are moving through that galaxy. Wait for the stars.”
From this book, “The Humans” which, by the way looks seriously EPIC.
I loved how he said “time is space, you are moving through that galaxy, wait for the stars.”
If you are in the darkness, you will find the stars again.
Remember that. :)
Ok beautiful people, that was a deep one for today and totally unplanned, so let me leave you with something a little light. I’m totally in love with this song California Sunrise by Dirty Gold. My friend Jeanne sent it to me. I like it a lot.
Sending you love and sweet dewdrops of clarity,